The Silent Struggle of the Strong Mom: Raw, Real & a Little Ridiculous | EPISODE 16

Motherhood is a miracle—but let’s not pretend it isn’t also a mind game.

In this no-holds-barred episode of The Badass Broadcast, TheQueenLadyTee is pulling back the curtain on what it really means to be a strong mom. Single or partnered, this one's for every woman holding it all together while quietly falling apart behind bathroom doors and business goals.

💥 From the invisible weight of emotional labor, to the shame thrown at single moms like we made these babies alone, to the morning rituals that keep us from crumbling—this is the raw, real, and ridiculously true talk you’ve been waiting for.

We’re breaking the silence around:

• The myth of Super Mom (spoiler: we’re just doing what needs to be done)
• The guilt of needing a break when the world expects you to “be strong”
• The frustration of being told to “hang in there” when you’re holding on by a thread
• And why asking for help is a holy act of strength

✨ Plus, a powerful invitation to share your story, take up space, and join the movement.

This episode will make you laugh, cry, nod, and most of all—breathe.
Because Queen… you don’t need a cape.
You just need to know: you are an unstoppable badass.

🎧 Hit play. Bring the tissues. And let your soul exhale.

Hey Mama—if something in this episode lit a fire in you, or if you’ve got a story, a struggle, or a sacred truth that needs to be heard, I want to hear from you.
✨ Whether you’re carrying something we don’t talk about enough, or you’re ready to step up and share your voice—this mic is for you too.

📥 DM me, email me, or go to unstoppablebadass.me and reach out.
Let’s turn your truth into transformation. Let’s co-create a space where every version of strong is seen, heard, and honored.

Because this isn’t just a podcast—it’s a movement.
 And your voice? It belongs here.

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Because you’re not meant to survive this season.
 You’re meant to rise through it.
Let’s get it, Mama. 🔥

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Transcript

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what's up beautiful badass being it's your favorite five starter the queen lady t back with another episode of the badass broadcast where the bullshit is burned and the truth gets told and today today this is gonna hit deep and probably make you laugh cry in the car so buckle up mama this one goes out to the strong moms the ones juggling Homeschooling, businesses, breakdowns, breakthroughs, like it's all part of the job description. The ones crying in the bathroom while their kids yell, mom, mama, bruh, through the door like it's a game show buzzer. This episode, the silent struggle of the strong mom. And spoiler alert, it ain't silent anymore. So my spirit guides told me, be more vulnerable. And I was like, wait, what? More? Y'all already got me out here ugly crying on the internet. Was that not enough? But you know what? They were right. Because this episode is absolutely needed for me, for you. If you know, you know. If you don't know, you're about to find out. So here goes. Being a single mom, is a divine initiation and also sometimes straight up hell. And we're going there today. The guilt, the grind, the get the hell away from me moments, all of it, no filters, no fluff, because the truth is being a single mom, it's beautiful, but it is brutal. The exhaustion, the grief, the pressure, the shame, the grind, no more holding back. Let's get into

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me paint a picture real quick. I'm a mom of six. Yes, six. I homeschool five of them while working full time. I'm building an empire. I'm hosting this podcast. I'm a walking miracle with messy locks and a mountain of laundry. And even though I'm proud of how far I've come, it is not easy. And I know I'm not alone. Some of y'all are married but still feel like single moms doing everything while your partner acts like a glorified roommate with remote privileges. Tell me I'm lying. I was a stay-at-home mom up until almost three years ago when I filed for divorce. But even before that, I was already parenting alone. Because here's another truth. We don't say enough. There are married women out here who are still doing everything themselves. Yes, they may have financial stability. They might have the rings. They might have the paper. But emotional labor, it's all yours. The mental load is all yours. Wanna scream into a pillow at least once a day? Same. And I've seen it firsthand. I have friends married to Amazing men, great providers, great fathers, but they don't help with the kids. The emotional weight still falls on the mom, the scheduling, the cooking, the cleaning, the appointments, the schoolwork, all of it. And no matter how much we love our kids, this shit gets heavy. These little blessings will test your soul's patience and your skincare routine. And the hardest part, most of the weight we carry is invisible. It's not on display. It's behind the smiles and the Zoom calls and the bedtime routines. We don't get sick days. We don't get time off. We cry in the shower and then we get back to work. And for so many of us, that weight is silent. And that silence, that's what eats away at us slowly and steadily. All right, let's call this shit out right here. Why are single moms still getting shamed like we chose this life as a Pinterest project? Like, we woke up and said, oh my God, I'd love to raise humans solo while broke, tired, and emotionally raw. Let's do it. Like, please. People love to talk shit from the sidelines with their you should'ves and I would'ves. Like we made babies alone. Just out here like, you know what sounds fun? Parenting six kids by myself while working and trying to launch a business. Yeah, I'm gonna do that. So let me say this louder for the judgmental ones in the back. We didn't choose this chaos. We just choose to rise through it. Some of us were lied to. Some of us were left. Some of us lost someone. And some of us walked away to save our damn souls. So no, I'm not here for the shame. I'm definitely not here for the comparison Olympics. Whether your ex pays child support, alimony, or you haven't heard from them since 2017. Or you've got a partner in the home who doesn't lift a damn finger. Your struggle is valid. Your story matters. I see you, mama. I've been all of you. This isn't about whose struggle is worse. It's about honoring that every version of motherhood that carries invisible weight. It's about stopping the shame and starting the healing. And let me just give y'all a sneak peek into my glamorous life. as a fabulous, badass mom of six. I'm up before the sun. I've got kids with jacked up sleep schedules. So rest is a joke. I have been team no sleep for like 15 years now. Power naps are survival. And if I do get sleep, guess what? That's time something isn't getting done. Dishes multiplying like gremlins. Business tasks waiting. Homeschooling on deck. Dinner. Don't even ask me what's for dinner. Or lunch because I'm already running late for work. I'm over here building dreams on fumes and caffeine pills y'all. I can't make this up. And I'm not telling you this for pity. I'm telling you this because you might be living it too. And I want you to know you are not crazy. You're just a single mom doing superhuman shit with human level energy. And listen, gratitude and exhaustion can absolutely coexist. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. This is not about... Being grateful. This is about being honest. Even the best kids will drive you to the edge. Even the strongest moms break down and guess what? That doesn't make us weak. That makes us real. So how do I keep from becoming a puddle in the kitchen floor? For me, rituals. boundaries self-preservation and sometimes straight up chocolate therapy my go-to dark chocolate with sea salt or caramel or bonus if it's dark chocolate with sea salt caramel and yes i stash it just for me i'm not sharing my non-negotiable I do not leave my room in the morning until I ground myself. Unless someone is bleeding or the house is on fire, I'm in sacred silence mode. They come knocking on this door, I will send them straight away like, uh-uh, uh-uh, I'm not ready yet. And if I do get ambushed before I'm ready, I turn into like this cranky mama gremlin and I regret all my life choices. like I knew I shouldn't have left their room before I got grounded. So now I hide snacks. I take five minute breathers. I lock myself into the bathroom for a nervous system reset. This is my version of self-care. So I say this with absolute love. Drip your magic. Then go sit your ass in the corner and breathe. Five minutes, 10 minutes if you're lucky. Got a clean bathroom, cool. Go hide in it with snacks. Do not share your snacks. Because we don't get luxury self-care, but we can create micro moments that keep us sane. Because if you fall apart, so does everything else. And the world isn't better when you're burnt out. It isn't. And let's keep it raw. for a moment you don't owe anyone an explanation for being exhausted you don't need to feel guilty for needing a break from your kids yeah they're your kids so what they're your kids they're also not only your kids you don't need to let anyone talk you out of your truth If you've never asked for help because you thought you had to do it all alone, start now. Ask for help. Asking for help is the strongest move you can make. If there is anyone in your life that you trust even just a little, maybe one of those people who say, let me know if you need something, but you always just say thank you and never actually let them know when you need something. Maybe it's one of them. He doesn't have to be a full day babysitter or some grand gesture. Even if it's just someone to be in the next room with your kids while you lock yourself in the bathroom, light a candle, breathe. That counts. Especially if you got older kids. And let me say this loud. Ask them for help. Older kids can be a lifesaver. They can step in. They can step up. It's okay to ask them to do that. It's not a burden. It's teaching them teamwork, responsibility, and empathy. It's teaching them how to be a good family member. And listen, if you open up and ask for help and people judge you for it, let them know. Because people who judge mamas for asking for help, either one, don't have the guts to carry what you carry, or two, they have no fucking clue what it takes to be you. You are not weak for needing help. You are wise for knowing you can't do this alone. You know what else? It's hard to be burnt out. It's hard to ask for help. And sometimes, It's easier to just say, I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm good, to keep smiling even when you're screaming inside. Because explaining why you're not fine, that's a whole different kind of exhaustion. Because when you do open up, you get hit with advice you didn't ask for, suggestions you've already tried, or worse, the classic one-liners. Hang in there. You've got this. You're strong. Just pray about it. God got you. Oh, I'm sorry, but telling a single mom you've got this when she's barely holding it together is like... Telling someone in full-blown panic to calm down. Because let's be real, never in the history of calming down has saying calm down actually calmed somebody down. And I get it. I get it. People mean well, and they're trying to soothe you the best way they know how, but it's not soothing. It's not validating. It's just more frustration layered on top of the chaos that you're already managing.

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And I get it.

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And can we talk about the Supermom label? I hate it. I hate it. I rebuke it. And again, I know people mean well, they mean it. They mean it as a compliment. I don't feel the compliment because I don't feel very super. I feel like I'm hanging on by a thread sometimes. I'm not some superhero. I'm just a badass mom who has dealt a fucked up hand on a whole lot of kids. And I chose not to fold. I chose to go all in and play the hell out of the hand I was given. And I make this choice every damn day. But if you've ever felt dismissed, if you've ever stopped sharing because it feels like no one really gets it, You're not alone. I see you, mama. I see you. And this space, it's for that version of you too. So just breathe, queen. Let this truth land in your cells. You are allowed to be messy miraculous and magnificent all at once. You don't need to carry it all to be worthy. And if no one else tells you today, I fucking see you. And listen, I want your voice on this mic. So what is your untold truth as a single mom? What story's been living in your chest waiting to be heard? DM me, email me, or look me up at unstoppablebadass.me. I'm opening up the Badass Podcast to real-ass mamas like you. Let's co-create this movement. Let's stop being silent and start saying the things that are on our hearts so that We can move through life healed. And if you're ready to elevate your self-love, self-care, or mindset once and for all, go ahead and book a free badass breakthrough session with me now. Let's burn away the bullshit and set your soul on fire. Now, before we go, let's seal this truth with some affirmations. If you're able to close your eyes right now, go ahead and do so. If not, just take a deep breath in. Release and repeat after me aloud or in your head. I carry more than most will ever know and I rise anyway. I am allowed to rest. I am allowed to ask for help. I am sacred and messy, tired and triumphant. I am not just surviving. I'm rising like the damn queen I am. Take a deep breath and let that anchor you. You don't need perfection. You don't need a cape. But if you have one, feel free to put that bitch on. You just need to know this. You are an unstoppable badass. Worthy of every single thing your heart desires. Now let's get

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it, mama. Wanna

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